Remembering Henry…
Henry James Porter was born on October 2nd 2009 at 7:35 am. He weighed 50 grams and was 5 1/4 inches long.
He was born 24 weeks too early and died in his Mummy’s womb.
Words cannot express the pain that I am feeling right now. I have to believe there is a bigger reason for us losing our little boy. Maybe we will be able to help others in the future. Maybe it is just a life lesson for us as a family.
My name is Sarah and I have a wonderful husband, Bill. We have a beautiful two year old daughter, Gwen, and a faithful Labrador, Kate. We were so looking forward to the birth of Gwen’s little brother, Henry, but unfortunately, for reasons unknown, he passed away. I had no idea anything was wrong. I went for my regular OB check-up at 16 weeks and everything just went pear-shaped as the Doctor was unable to find a heartbeat.
I want to remember, I have to remember, and so I want to write down everything that happened and document our journey through this sad and difficult time.
This is our story…
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Linda Hartley said,
October 4, 2009 at 1:01 pm
My sweet darling Sarah …I weep here for your sorrow and the huge loss of your Tiny unborn son …Henry James was made of pure shining LOVE …he is and always will be your little boy … special and unique and a gift from God to you and your wonderful Bill .
I am most honoured (sitting here on a frosty morning in southern Ontario) to be invited so graciously by you to share your memories and loving but soo full of pain and suffering …blog .Thank you for sharing little Henry James with us who love you (and him ..and Gwennie and Bill ..and Kate ..and your loving Dad ..bless him for coming) …very very much.
You are my friend and I treasure that friendship sweetheart . You are a very special person ..the best Mummy in the world …and are very very loved . james Henry loves you very much ..and remember one thing above all others . LOVE NEVER DIES !!
Here for you always ..and remembering little baby Henry James who had to go to heaven to the angels far too soon .
Love you ..
Linda xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx……and Peter xxxxxxxxx
lovinghenry said,
October 4, 2009 at 5:24 pm
Thank you for reading, darling, and thank you for your heartfelt words. You always say the right things with so much kindness.
I wish you were here. I could use a Linda-hug!
xxxxxxxxxooooooooooooxxxxxxxxxxxx
Kristen Sorondo said,
October 5, 2009 at 4:14 pm
Sarah,
I have thought of you all weekend!! Your experience hits home to me. My sister and I were pregnant at the same time when I was pregnant with Isabella.
She lost Caleb at 20 weeks.
Very similar experience you both have gone through. I can’t relate to the two of you but I do know it was the hardest thing for me to contiue to be pregnant while my sister was so distraught. The Holidays were the worst and then I delivered. You could tell that she was imagining what it would be like to be holding Caleb – but the memories of the 20 week fetus will always remain in her head. I was there with her and helped her get though her difficult time. It took a long time for her not to wake up crying or go to bed and not be able to sleep thinking of those last moments together.
Now 4 years later, I think she is at peace. My heart feels for you and we will continue to pray for you and Bill.
lovinghenry said,
October 5, 2009 at 7:41 pm
Kristen, thank you so much for sharing your sister’s story with me. I am so sorry that she went through this too. It must have been so hard for the both of you. Life seems so cruel sometimes, doesn’t it?
Thank you so much for your prayers. We appreciate them so much!
Lots of love to you and your family.
Sarah xoxo
Heather said,
October 14, 2009 at 3:56 am
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I always hate to hear of new moms joining this awful club.
Thank you for stopping by my blog and for your condolences on the loss of my daughter. As you have come to know, it is the most terrible thing anyone could ever go through.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
therootofallevel said,
October 24, 2009 at 6:37 pm
i’m so sorry to hear of your loss sarah. know that there is an incredible group of us going through it too and if you ever need someone to talk to, don’t hesitate to contact me.
xo,
julie
lovinghenry said,
October 25, 2009 at 8:34 am
Thank you, Julie! Likewise. xoxo